An unexpected encounter

For Aminah Hart, things hadn’t worked out the way she’d hoped. At 42, this Australian with West Indian origins took stock of her life and one aspect wasn’t how she wanted it to be: she was single with no children.

She remembered the painful hardships she’d already been through, but she wasn’t finished yet.

Watch them tell their story in this charming interview:

Aminah had already lost two children. The first one, Marlon, was only four months old when he died. The couple's relationship didn’t survive this tragedy and Aminah was soon divorced. The second child, Louis, only reached the age of 14 months. Once more, the pain was too difficult for the couple to deal with and again Aminah found herself single.

“You can’t really put it into words. …I had two relationships and two children but it wasn’t until the second one that I got a diagnosis of the genetic disorder,” recalls Aminah.

This rare condition, x-linked myotubular myopathy, turned Aminah’s desire to have children into a real nightmare. If she were to get pregnant again, there was a 25% probability that the baby would be diagnosed with the disease that had taken Marlon and Louis. Was she really strong enough to go through that a third time?

“It took me a long time to make the decision and I considered everything: my age, social status, and that I carried a fatal genetic disorder… I had the understanding that I wasn’t a great prospect.” But her desire to become a mom was stronger than anything. She decided to find a sperm donor. As she checked the list of donors, she didn’t know what they looked like or where they lived. She just saw their medical records.

In 2011, she made a choice, picked her stranger, and soon Aminah gave birth to her daughter Leila. When she found out that her daughter was perfectly healthy, she couldn’t hold back the tears. Her dream had finally become reality.

Aminah was living a happy life with her daughter now. So when her mother Helen encouraged her to seek out and meet Leila’s biological father, Aminah hesitated. Her mom was determined so she did some sleuthing and tracked down the donor, Scott Andersen. After a while Aminah let herself be persuaded and, once he'd agreed to be contacted, sent him an email gratefully sharing a picture of her child. Thanks to him, she was a fulfilled mother!